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Re: So sorry about this.

June 20, 2022 08:30AM
I'm sure it was tougher heading home, knowing what looms.

It was hard but we are all trying to prepare the best we can. We know what's coming.

I have 2 brothers and 1 sister. I'm #2 in birth order. My younger brother with the brain tumor lives in Edmond, Oklahoma with his wife of 47 years and we decided to have the reunion there so they wouldn't have to travel. My brother has an adult daughter who lives in Memphis, TN and an adult son who lives in Austin, TX. My brother is no longer allowed to drive because he's not always lucid now and his thoughts and speech aren't always clear. He had 2 separate car accidents a few months ago and his doctor said... that's it... you're no longer allowed to drive. We can all see and hear the affects of the brain tumor and it's heart-breaking. Wendell has always had the memory of an elephant and he's is a really smart person. He struggles now to put sentences together and when he does, they don't always make sense. He's lost weight and is looking gaunt. His eyes have lost their luster. I don't know how else to express what I see in his face except to say it that way. He is letting his hair get really long, a bushy Afro... and I think it's because it's the one thing on his head that he can control. He can't do a thing about the tumor... but he can decide how long and in what style to grow his hair. Just a theory.

My older brother, my sister and her husband , and I sat around talking for a long time after breakfast on Saturday. My younger brother was at his house in Edmond. As we talked I said to them, "I want to address the elephant in the room. No one has said it, but I think this might be a goodbye visit". My sister (retired nurse) lost it. And then I lost it because SHE lost it. We are all in our 70's now and folks are going to start checking out because time waits for no one. We lost my older brother's wife to ovarian cancer 2 years ago right after the pandemic hit. We had planned to have a reunion that summer but were forced to cancel it. So our reunion is already affected by loss.... and not all family members could attend this year for various reasons. Starting with my parents and their kids... and their kids... and their kids... there are about 50 of us. I never got the head count but I think we had about 35 turn out (including all the kids). Even so, we had a great time and I'm glad I went.

Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 06/20/2022 08:31AM by MamaRAMa.

  First Flight in 14 years

MamaRAMa185June 20, 2022 05:18AM

  Really? No direct flights from STL to OKC?

sstrams64June 20, 2022 06:00AM

  Re: Really? No direct flights from STL to OKC?

MamaRAMa158June 20, 2022 06:17AM

  Yeah, its unfortunate..

sstrams62June 20, 2022 07:07AM

  Dallas to Wichita Falls is a 3 hour drive?

JamesJM43June 20, 2022 07:16AM

  Probably 2.5 or so, but with traffic jams and whatnot..

sstrams33June 20, 2022 07:20AM

  Re: Really? No direct flights from STL to OKC?

waterfield19November 18, 2023 06:04AM

  The times I've flown to St Louis have all been

sstrams16November 18, 2023 06:49AM

  I took a motorcycle to St. Louis...

JamesJM20November 18, 2023 09:15AM

  Re: I took a motorcycle to St. Louis...

ScRAM15November 18, 2023 10:35AM

  So sorry about your Brother, Mama...

JamesJM78June 20, 2022 06:10AM

  Yeah, totally agree..

sstrams131June 20, 2022 06:15AM

  Re: Yeah, totally agree..

MamaRAMa181June 20, 2022 06:29AM

  Wow, you and Steve are speaking my mind...

JamesJM40June 20, 2022 06:38AM

  Yeah, I totally agree about the ocean..

sstrams39June 20, 2022 07:11AM

  Good advice....

JamesJM52June 20, 2022 07:25AM

  One thing I absolutely remember was..

sstrams46June 20, 2022 07:33AM

  LOL I have had a window seat just once on my last 4 times on a plane.

Ramgator35June 20, 2022 07:55AM

  We base our window seating chart...

sstrams37June 20, 2022 07:58AM

  Very first time I flew on an airliner, I was PISSED!!!

Ramgator45June 20, 2022 07:59AM

  Yeah, its annoying..

sstrams149June 20, 2022 08:09AM

  Re: So sorry about your Brother, Mama...

MamaRAMa66June 20, 2022 06:18AM

  So sorry about this.

Ramgator64June 20, 2022 07:51AM

  Re: So sorry about this.

MamaRAMa99June 20, 2022 08:30AM

  Dang it, Mama! That is painful.

Ramgator120June 20, 2022 03:21PM

  My first flight....

JamesJM79June 20, 2022 09:05AM

  I don't remember my first 20 flights, or so..

sstrams44June 20, 2022 09:14AM

  You should have done it....

JamesJM71June 20, 2022 09:20AM

  Yeah, I regret it...

sstrams35June 20, 2022 09:43AM

  That would be tough...

JamesJM56June 20, 2022 09:54AM

  Yeah, for sure..

sstrams47June 20, 2022 11:29AM

  The choices we make in life....

JamesJM40June 20, 2022 11:40AM

  I have a lot of what-ifs...

sstrams48June 20, 2022 11:49AM

  My brother passed away yesterday

MamaRAMa37November 17, 2023 02:43PM

  Re: My brother passed away yesterday

SeattleRam16November 17, 2023 02:46PM

  Very sorry to hear that, Mama. My condolences. (nm)

JamesJM14November 17, 2023 05:29PM

  Re: My brother passed away yesterday

ScRAM18November 17, 2023 05:59PM

  very sorry for your loss nm

21Dog12November 17, 2023 08:03PM

  I hope you handle this well....

roman1816November 18, 2023 04:38AM

  You do YOUR thing! Funerals are for the living anyway.

Ramgator17November 18, 2023 11:01AM

  I changed my mind

MamaRAMa21November 19, 2023 05:06PM

  Good For You.....

ScRAM12November 19, 2023 05:40PM

  Glad to hear that.

Ramgator12November 20, 2023 09:51AM

  Sorry for your loss, Mama.

canadaram3November 21, 2023 04:14PM