at the funeral - and most people, in general, would want you to remember them during the good times.. There's a time to grieve, which I prefer to do in private, myself, but funerals should be more of a "celebrate the life" of the deceased event.. try to remember the good times.. I can understand how some people would find that disrespectful, so its always kind of a "read the room" kinda thing..

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