my oldest daughter is..... hmmm, how to say this.... stubborn. In this way: Things must go her way. You cannot debate her because it goes instantly from:

Oldest Daughter: "here's the plan"
Me: "Good plan, but I was thinki....."
Oldest Daughter: "THIS IS HOW IT HAS TO BE BECAUSE I CAN'T ADJUST SO YOU BETTER GET IT TOGETHER".

Or the reverse:

Me: "Here's my plan for going to the movies... yada yada yada..."
Oldest Daughter: "Good idea, but I was thinking.... yada yada yada"
Me: "But why do you want to change...."
Oldest Daughter: "SURE, GO AHEAD, CHANGE IT, IT ONLY MEANS WORLD WIDE PESTILENCE AND FAMINE AND SHINGLES FOR EVERYONE"

OK, I exaggerated a little. But only a little. - JamesJM