I'm not making any excuses
for the guy....that being said I can see a different hypothetical....because you know how quickly things can escalate

(comes back from a walk or grabbing a bite to find 3 teenagers in his chairs)
Husband/Father: Hey guys what are you doing in my chairs?

Teenagers: nobody was using them

Husband : well we're back now so get moving

Teenager: I don't see your name on it we're good

Husband(losing it a bit) get the F out of my chair or your gonna catch a beating

Teenager: FU try it I'll call a cop

Husband: grabs fishing pole throws in ocean

Teenager: grabs on to coach "wtf a hole"

Husband: grounds and pounds

Now it's not ok but I can see things happening quickly

Someone used example of 13. And 108 lbs
What if it's 3 17 yr olds 200 +
Would this scenario change your opinion ....because it wouldn't surprise if this is close to how it went down