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It's hard to be so young and to be where he is

January 14, 2023 06:02AM
Haven't posted in a long time because circumstances have made it difficult for me to even follow football this year. But I do have a quick thought about McVay.

The downside to being so young and a "genius" and having such amazing success so quick is that your mind hasn't had the necessary years and life experiences to mature and sort things out, just yet. Big life questions may not yet be answered, some as basic as: "Who am I?" "What is my self-identity based upon?" "What do I really want in life?" Often the result is inner turmoil and insecurities that can be so hard to understand when you're in the midst of it.

I've seen it in plenty of young managers I've overseen over the decades, and in looking back (a long way!) even in myself in some early years when I, too, was too young to be placed in the position I was. It's why we'll see some too young guys made OCs, DCs and even HCs, and wind up being fired even though they have all the talent in the world. See it all the time in the business world. Often they come back later after some more maturing, after more time to process life, and then have more success and handle the pressures better.

Yes, McVay had great success because of his genius, work ethic, and force of personality. But he was too young; and now his mind is in turmoil as he tries to figure things out that take years and lots of life experiences to get there. The Rams organization at the top, I think, knows exactly what I'm talking about and so the wise old heads allowed him the unpressured space to even get to the most basic question: do I want to continue to do this job or not?

The good news is that McVay seems to realize his dilemma. The bad news is that he's still young and there is no way to accelerate life experiences that come only with time. I hope he is able to find a new mentor (apparently his grandfather held that position) that can offer sage direction and comfort for him.

But even this bad terrible horrible year is valuable, and will go a long way in the right direction for allowing him to mentally mature. He will learn that failures are not abnormal; they are inevitable and a part of life for everyone. This is a very hard lesson to learn for a young person who has not yet failed.

I hope he is open to some advice on choosing staff that can be not just good football minds, but good guides in life.
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  Mcvay retuning for 2023

Ram_Ruler1162January 13, 2023 10:30AM

  Re: Mcvay retuning for 2023

MamaRAMa218January 13, 2023 10:36AM

  Re: Mcvay retuning for 2023

Ram_Ruler211January 13, 2023 10:37AM

  Spot on

Stafford978January 14, 2023 10:25AM

  Meh

Ram4life216January 13, 2023 10:36AM

  Re: Meh

Ram_Ruler175January 13, 2023 10:37AM

  Hey man I'm sorry

Ram4life215January 13, 2023 10:40AM

  Re: Hey man I'm sorry

Ram_Ruler291January 13, 2023 10:51AM

  never doubted otherwise

headslapper145January 13, 2023 10:38AM

  Sean, take a real break this year.

alyoshamucci237January 13, 2023 10:41AM

  told ya!!

Rampage2K-146January 13, 2023 10:42AM

  I predict OBJ will be in Rams Training Camp (NM)

Thirtymac, The Intrepid Ram235January 13, 2023 10:44AM

  I'd rather have Hopkins..

sstrams135January 13, 2023 12:38PM

  So now, who is he losing ...

alyoshamucci244January 13, 2023 10:44AM

  I'm Jacked!

Classicalwit170January 14, 2023 04:32AM

  I never doubted it...

JamesJM320January 13, 2023 10:44AM

  I have my issues with him, but I'm glad he's staying..

sstrams125January 13, 2023 10:50AM

  Great news!

DaJudge116January 13, 2023 10:50AM

  I’ll admit to being conflicted…

Rams43190January 13, 2023 11:03AM

  Re: I’ll admit to being conflicted…

3030132January 13, 2023 11:05AM

  Get Frank Reich as OC & Vic Fangio as DC.

den-the-coach180January 13, 2023 11:07AM

  Re: Get Frank Reich as OC & Vic Fangio as DC.

Rams43268January 13, 2023 11:11AM

  Re: Get Frank Reich as OC & Vic Fangio as DC.

3030289January 13, 2023 11:24AM

  Frank Reich as OC & Vic Fangio as DC.---my preference also

NewMexicoRam125January 13, 2023 11:30AM

  Re: YES!

AlbaNY_Ram109January 13, 2023 12:27PM

  Re: I’ll admit to being conflicted…

Rampage2K-133January 13, 2023 11:17AM

  "Do you really see the unreal amount of injuries happening again?"

sstrams116January 13, 2023 11:25AM

  Yep. Like Noteboom and Allen

Ram4life122January 13, 2023 12:05PM

  Yeah I think counting on them..

sstrams110January 13, 2023 12:07PM

  Re: "Do you really see the unreal amount of injuries happening again?"

Ramstien95January 13, 2023 01:13PM

  YES!!!! And why I want O LINE...O LINE.... O LINE......Followed by a DE.

Ramgator70January 13, 2023 03:49PM

  Re: I’ll admit to being conflicted…

Rams43101January 13, 2023 11:57AM

  Re: I’ll admit to being conflicted…

Rampage2K-100January 13, 2023 12:35PM

  Your like McVay . . .

stlramz89January 13, 2023 12:43PM

  Okay?

Ridgewood Ram156January 13, 2023 01:00PM

  Re: Okay?

Ram4life94January 13, 2023 01:03PM

  Re: Okay?

Ridgewood Ram160January 13, 2023 01:12PM

  Re: Okay?

Ridgewood Ram78January 13, 2023 01:14PM

  Re: Mcvay retuning for 2023

Ekern55129January 13, 2023 11:08AM

  Re: Mcvay retuning for 2023

droopy282January 13, 2023 11:31AM

  Hard for me to get excited about

BumRap171January 13, 2023 12:26PM

  What happens if they have a losing season again?

Ram4life117January 13, 2023 12:29PM

  Re: What happens if they have a losing season again?

Ridgewood Ram98January 13, 2023 01:09PM

  Re: What happens if we go 17-0 ........nm

Arkansas Ram128January 13, 2023 06:09PM

  Re: Mcvay retuning for 2023

Ramstien112January 13, 2023 01:07PM

  Re: Mcvay retuning for 2023

IowaRam142January 13, 2023 01:09PM

  AYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! nm

Ramgator89January 13, 2023 03:45PM

  100% love it! Zero reservations.

canadaram138January 13, 2023 03:24PM

  Just would like to know what changed from last Sunday to today?

Ridgewood Ram97January 13, 2023 06:48PM

  Re: Just would like to know what changed from last Sunday to today?

MamaRAMa121January 13, 2023 06:54PM

  +1

Ridgewood Ram83January 13, 2023 07:30PM

  Re: Just would like to know what changed from last Sunday to today?

303085January 13, 2023 07:30PM

  Re: Just would like to know what changed from last Sunday to today?

Ridgewood Ram102January 13, 2023 07:31PM

  Re: Mcvay retuning for 2023

dodgerram113January 13, 2023 11:35PM

  It's hard to be so young and to be where he is

RockRam95January 14, 2023 06:02AM

  Re: It's hard to be so young and to be where he is

Rams4362January 14, 2023 06:32AM