Advice from the pub please re: moving
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So we have been planning to move now for a few/5 years. (wife seems to be afraid to move and keeps putting it off which is another request for advice at a later time)
the new place will be about 20 minutes away. Closer to my daughter's school and when she is a teen will give her more options for high quality schooling. So this is not anything that will displacing her from her friends. If anything she will be closer to family and friends.
So what's the issue? When I look back on my childhood, the house I remember as the house I grew up in is our first house. I lived there until I was 13. The next house, I don't even think of it at all but I lived there for 5 years and you would think I would remember more about it. When I dream, sometimes I will travel back to the first house I lived in.
So... my daughter will be turning 9 soon and will be close to 10 by the time we move. I am getting uncomfortable with the idea that I may be taking the home she grew up in away. I have been conscious of this for a while which is why I have been pushing for a move for about 4 years now... so the new home would be her childhood home... But now?
The home we live in now is nice enough. There is a bad stretch a few miles away and one of the neighbors directly across the street is a heroin addict and will invite other addicts to her house. So we don't let our daughter out to play without serious supervision (which we would do anyway but with less worry). We don't take walks because it doesn't feel safe. Most people walk with a stick or something. There was a huge dog fighting ring close by. I'm making it sound bad. It is more disconcerting than bad.
The new home. If I were a caveman THIS is the spot I would choose to for my family. Would have to build (so 6 months of renting) Lots of room, few neighbors, still in a nice development with miles of safe roads to walk or bike. Awesome for the dog. Beautiful because it sets on a beautiful 3+ acre pond and is surrounded by woods on one side. A little personal oasis. We have bought the lot. It seems to have appreciated by about 20% so its not out of the question that we would profit from selling it... and getting rid of the extra mortgage payment would help the marriage. lol
My daughter doesn't really know what living in a new home would be like so she wants to stay in the home she knows.
If I lived here, the house we live in now, for the rest of my life, it would be fine... disappointing but fine. And I would happily do it if moving was going to mess up my daughters memories of "home". Home is a special place. That I completely dismiss the second house I grew up in concerns me that I may be taking something away from her.
Anyone have any thoughts?
In anticipation we have put a fire pit at a little cove...
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 12/04/2018 09:58AM by Atlantic Ram.
the new place will be about 20 minutes away. Closer to my daughter's school and when she is a teen will give her more options for high quality schooling. So this is not anything that will displacing her from her friends. If anything she will be closer to family and friends.
So what's the issue? When I look back on my childhood, the house I remember as the house I grew up in is our first house. I lived there until I was 13. The next house, I don't even think of it at all but I lived there for 5 years and you would think I would remember more about it. When I dream, sometimes I will travel back to the first house I lived in.
So... my daughter will be turning 9 soon and will be close to 10 by the time we move. I am getting uncomfortable with the idea that I may be taking the home she grew up in away. I have been conscious of this for a while which is why I have been pushing for a move for about 4 years now... so the new home would be her childhood home... But now?
The home we live in now is nice enough. There is a bad stretch a few miles away and one of the neighbors directly across the street is a heroin addict and will invite other addicts to her house. So we don't let our daughter out to play without serious supervision (which we would do anyway but with less worry). We don't take walks because it doesn't feel safe. Most people walk with a stick or something. There was a huge dog fighting ring close by. I'm making it sound bad. It is more disconcerting than bad.
The new home. If I were a caveman THIS is the spot I would choose to for my family. Would have to build (so 6 months of renting) Lots of room, few neighbors, still in a nice development with miles of safe roads to walk or bike. Awesome for the dog. Beautiful because it sets on a beautiful 3+ acre pond and is surrounded by woods on one side. A little personal oasis. We have bought the lot. It seems to have appreciated by about 20% so its not out of the question that we would profit from selling it... and getting rid of the extra mortgage payment would help the marriage. lol
My daughter doesn't really know what living in a new home would be like so she wants to stay in the home she knows.
If I lived here, the house we live in now, for the rest of my life, it would be fine... disappointing but fine. And I would happily do it if moving was going to mess up my daughters memories of "home". Home is a special place. That I completely dismiss the second house I grew up in concerns me that I may be taking something away from her.
Anyone have any thoughts?
In anticipation we have put a fire pit at a little cove...
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 12/04/2018 09:58AM by Atlantic Ram.
